We human are meant to love and to be loved, our heart can never be free. We look for one person that can hold a claim over the beating.
But sometimes, love become addictive and leaves us in dependency. You should rely on your partner to some extent but not everywhere. You deprive your individuality and somehow respect in their eyes. This emotional dysfunction is insatiable and badly impact your relationship. Dependency strangles love.
At initially, it’s enamoring to live with a reliant person. You tag it love, when they say “I can’t live without you, you are my world.” But as the relationship grows, the dependency become fester and then it sucks.
In love you both are one soul, but you need to consider that there are two bodies and the both should be nurtured.
He amuses your mind, no matter what you are doing, you uninterrupted talk to him back of the mind. When you are with him, you are the happiest and the luckiest girl. But as he starts shifting away from you, you become restless. You become more attuned to his feelings and numb to your own.
You abort all night outs and parties where he is not allowed to go. And you don’t let him go either. You become insecure, suspicious, needy, possessive, manipulative, and clingy.
Even in a minor decision, you seek his advice. And whatever he says is the final line for you. You don’t use your own brain. Soon, it drains your self-esteem. You gave the other person complete right to take advantage of you.
You can be physically hooked on someone. But with emotional reliance, your happiness is at risk. The slightest shift in his behaviour makes you edgy. His mood influences you.
Expecting reciprocity in relation isn’t unrealistic, it’s love. Don’t make Love only an emotion that needs tiny things to amplify.
You give him all liberty to alter your perception. It’s your brain that provoking his thoughts. Soon, you soak your emotions in his wall, you forget that there can be another world. You see yourself through his eyes. It restricts your self-growth. It troubles to pinpoint your own thoughts and feelings.
It also affects the other person. He found himself bounded. Sometimes, it suffocates to live with a highly dependent person. Too much interference in personal life coerce love to fly away.
You can be physically dependent on someone. But with emotional reliance, your happiness is at risk.
I know you both are one soul, but you need to consider that there are two bodies and the both should be nurtured.
You need to understand that you have your own identity, your own perspective, a way of thinking, some unique qualities. You don’t need to look at him for your emotional well-beings.
You don’t need him to radiant smiles. Taking care of your own needs isn’t selfish or narcissistic. Expecting reciprocity in relation isn’t unrealistic, it’s love. Don’t make Love only an emotion that needs these tiny things to amplify.
